WEEK 8 – Switch off, tune in.
This is not the post I had intended to share this week. I had a completely different idea in mind for this post but then yesterday, things changed. Several months ago I decided to have a self imposed rule that I would not switch on the lap top at all during the day. That had been working really well. I was focusing on R during the day, not the screen. Then I bought a smart phone. Suddenly I was always connected. Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, 3 different email accounts, texts, maintaining this blog, all of it right there, all of the time. I know you know exactly what I mean. It is a constant struggle for me to just put the phone down. Sometimes I have to put it on silent and hide it in a cupboard in another room just to stop myself from responding to the constant stream of notifications and emails. Yesterday, I showed no such will power. I don’t think the phone left my side the entire day. The endless notifications had my constant attention and R was coming second every time. It wasn’t until we were sitting at the dining table, playing a board game together and I heard the words “Come ON Mummy!” that I was finally jolted out of my smart phone hypnosis. As I snapped out of it, I realised that R had said those words to me three times before I registered what was going on. Never again. I need to refocus. I need to stop sending R the message that he comes second to a “device”.
I need to switch off and tune in.
I need to disconnect, in order to reconnect.
Do you need motivation to switch off and tune in? I’ll never forget the first time I came across Hands Free Mama and read Rachel’s powerful post How To Miss a Childhood. I already knew I was too distracted but it was when I read that post that I finally made a commitment to myself (and to R) to do something about it. These are the posts that I’m going to read again this week to refocus on being present.
- I Have a Disease I think I need to print out the “cure for the disease” section of this post and pin it to my fridge door. That will be all the motivation I need to put the phone down.
- The Children Have Spoken – because our children DO notice what’s going on.
- A Well Loved Child – to remind myself that these opportunities for connection won’t last forever. I need to grasp them now.
If you are joining us for the first time ~ welcome! At the end of this post you will find the links for week 1 through 7. Each week for ten weeks, I’ll be sharing one simple idea that you can implement today to foster a more connected relationship with your child. It is my hope that by the end of the ten weeks we will be more present for our children, and more mindful of the type of parent we want to be. With each idea being so simple, and with only one intention to focus on each week, I know we can do this. Will you join me?
Here are the links for all 10 weeks of this series.
Week 1 – See them.
Week 2 – Listen.
Week 3 – Say yes.
Week 4 – Begin each day with play.
Week 5 – Come from a place of love.
Week 6 – Believe in them.
Week 7 – Let them be themselves.
Week 8 – Switch off, tune in.
Week 9 – Be a real person. Share yourself.
Week 10 – Be kind to yourself. You are enough.
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